What Should A “Good” Pedophile Do?

Dan Savage responds to a reader on The Stranger‘s Savage Love:

Let’s say, theoretically, I’m a pedophile.

I’m not stupid or evil, so I’m not gonna DO anything. I’m not even gonna look at porn, because the production of it involves child exploitation. I don’t even look at kids in public places.

So what the fuck should I do? Chemical castration? But I haven’t DONE anything and I don’t plan to. Am I obliged to tell anyone? Good way to lose friends. Can I keep babysitting my friends’ kids when they need a hand? After all, if I were into adult women, people wouldn’t see anything wrong with leaving me alone with a couple of those.

What the fuck do I do? Live alone and hope Japan starts producing affordable sexbots before I’m too old to care?

You know, theoretically. If I were a pedophile.

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  • Anonymous

    Kill Yourself…

    • Sven

      why should I kill myself for you? just because you don’t accept me? maybe you should kill yourself? then again I accept you for your differences… it’s you who don’t accept me.. so maybe I should just kill you.. you’re not civilized.. after all there’s no proof that pedofile = rapist.. or that girls that masturbate wouldn’t like the real thing even more.

      • Normal

        To all Pedophiles! Do yo understand what do yo do to little children lives??? Do u know that every 3 of raped or molest child tried to commit suicide at some point of age because of fuckers like u?!!! Those how grows up ends up changing their sexual orientation, becoming prostitutes….Society doesn’t accept you because it’s not normal to be attracted to children, animals or your close relatives…it is NOT normal in nature! not only in the human society!! Sex was made for one reason for reproduction. Just because human uses it more often then should it doesn’t mean it supposed to be so.

        • Ultramonkey

          If i Killed myself for being what i hate and allowing it to hurt those i love would god forgive me and let me come home?

        • Jebediah24

          If it doesn’t exist in nature then why does it exist? We are nature my friend. Never so far remove yourself from reality to forget this.

  • Anonymous

    You know…I haven't been in such a long time that I don't know if it's been completely outlawed or become more socially acceptable, but there are communities of people on Second Life consisting of pedophiles and people who get off on roleplaying as children. Nobody gets hurt and everybody involved has fun, I'd imagine. Maybe poke around there?

    • Anonymous

      It's outlawed and not at all socially acceptable in MOST places. But I think it still does go on, in some really messed up lands. I've seen random child clothes and avs for sale… but never investigated cuz it's too creepy!
      I think pedophiles should be castrated, and/or lobotomized.

    • Jsmith

      do you forget that you yourself were once a child, having someone prey on you as a child would of sucked, and if you were molested I know its a way of reversing the roles of the pain you suffered. You need therapy, this isn’t a sexual orientation its a deception, you don’t have to live your lives in fear, and perversion there is an escape. I am a survivor of sexual abuse, and felt that maybe I too had inherited the pedophile gene, its torment is real and nearly caused me to commit suicide, therapy and faith give me the strength to tackle another day, just try to remember that nobody wants to be sexually assaulted, including you, so what gives you the right to invoke that hell on a helpless defenseless individual, its not love its perversion of your mind, get some help, so you can see the beauty and freedom that life has to offer.

  • http://not.com/ not

    I'm a pedophile to my friend.. you live in a world where majority rules.. and fear or difference in taste inspires hate and violence towards you undeservingly.. In short you live in a world of fools and users..

    Use them in return.. and hide in the shadows of their ignorance and foolishness. The will never find you unless they are smart enough, and by then they will have to understand you.. Us them.. molest children… in secret.. when society stops using you by making work for a living, as they deny you your rights, you may stop using them. And they will understand that they gave you no choice.

    They aren't human my friend.. they are just close to human. Use them as they use you. and wait for the joyful day they evolve and meet us here.

    the pedophile

  • http://not.com not

    should I want to kill you for being strait? should I want to kill you.. for being strait? should I hate you for being strait, b/c there are strait rapists?

    should I return the hate? I can.. or we can act like civilized people. make it legal to be a pedophile.. as it is legal to be strait.. and just as I’ve learned about strait people you can learn about pedophilia.

    Maybe when you understand that it’s not rape or abusive you can stop the violence and the hate and I won’t have to return it.

  • http://not.com not

    should I want to kill you for being strait? should I want to kill you.. for being strait? should I hate you for being strait, b/c there are strait rapists?

    should I return the hate? I can.. or we can act like civilized people. make it legal to be a pedophile.. as it is legal to be strait.. and just as I've learned about strait people you can learn about pedophilia.

    Maybe when you understand that it's not rape or abusive you can stop the violence and the hate and I won't have to return it.

  • Sven

    why should I kill myself for you? just because you don’t accept me? maybe you should kill yourself? then again I accept you for your differences… it’s you who don’t accept me.. so maybe I should just kill you.. you’re not civilized.. after all there’s no proof that pedofile = rapist.. or that girls that masturbate wouldn’t like the real thing even more.

  • Jsmith

    do you forget that you yourself were once a child, having someone prey on you as a child would of sucked, and if you were molested I know its a way of reversing the roles of the pain you suffered. You need therapy, this isn’t a sexual orientation its a deception, you don’t have to live your lives in fear, and perversion there is an escape. I am a survivor of sexual abuse, and felt that maybe I too had inherited the pedophile gene, its torment is real and nearly caused me to commit suicide, therapy and faith give me the strength to tackle another day, just try to remember that nobody wants to be sexually assaulted, including you, so what gives you the right to invoke that hell on a helpless defenseless individual, its not love its perversion of your mind, get some help, so you can see the beauty and freedom that life has to offer.

  • goddog

    I think that the problem of accepting pedophilia as a form of sexual and emotional expression will have to be addressed by our society eventually. Of course no one wants to be sexually assaulted, but it’s not clear to me that pedophilia requires an exploitative or damaging relationship for a child in an open society. I think most of the damage that comes from pedophilia is a result of the social taboo. The adult molests the child because the act is unacceptable for the public, and the child feels guilty and abused because it is somehow an unacceptable secret. In a world where pedophilia is acceptable, I am worried that many children will be taken advantage of, but the same can be said for anyone in an abusive relationship. Just because some people arent capable of a mutually fulfilling relationship doesnt mean we should punish an entire group of people.
    Im not comfortable with the idea of allowing pedophilia, but I believe that if I hadnt been raised in a society that is hostile toward pedophiles, we would see that a relationship between an older person and a child can be just as mutually fulfilling as any other relationship.

  • goddog

    I think that the problem of accepting pedophilia as a form of sexual and emotional expression will have to be addressed by our society eventually. Of course no one wants to be sexually assaulted, but it’s not clear to me that pedophilia requires an exploitative or damaging relationship for a child in an open society. I think most of the damage that comes from pedophilia is a result of the social taboo. The adult molests the child because the act is unacceptable for the public, and the child feels guilty and abused because it is somehow an unacceptable secret. In a world where pedophilia is acceptable, I am worried that many children will be taken advantage of, but the same can be said for anyone in an abusive relationship. Just because some people arent capable of a mutually fulfilling relationship doesnt mean we should punish an entire group of people.
    Im not comfortable with the idea of allowing pedophilia, but I believe that if I hadnt been raised in a society that is hostile toward pedophiles, we would see that a relationship between an older person and a child can be just as mutually fulfilling as any other relationship.

  • Normal

    To all Pedophiles! Do yo understand what do yo do to little children lives??? Do u know that every 3 of raped or molest child tried to commit suicide at some point of age because of fuckers like u?!!! Those how grows up ends up changing their sexual orientation, becoming prostitutes….Society doesn’t accept you because it’s not normal to be attracted to children, animals or your close relatives…it is NOT normal in nature! not only in the human society!! Sex was made for one reason for reproduction. Just because human uses it more often then should it doesn’t mean it supposed to be so.

  • Ultramonkey

    If i Killed myself for being what i hate and allowing it to hurt those i love would god forgive me and let me come home?

  • Jebediah24

    develop a decent imagination, read smut, learn to enjoy just masturbation and prepare to live the rest of your life with yourself. Find that one or two persons you could divulge your secret to, to help keep you and your sanity in check. strap in and have the unique experience of the life you are ment to live. be happy and free like everyone should be. theoretically if you were a pedophile, of course.

  • Jebediah24

    develop a decent imagination, read smut, learn to enjoy just masturbation and prepare to live the rest of your life with yourself. Find that one or two persons you could divulge your secret to, to help keep you and your sanity in check. strap in and have the unique experience of the life you are ment to live. be happy and free like everyone should be. theoretically if you were a pedophile, of course.

  • Jebediah24

    If it doesn’t exist in nature then why does it exist? We are nature my friend. Never so far remove yourself from reality to forget this.

  • Jebediah24

    develop a decent imagination, read smut, learn to enjoy just masturbation and prepare to live the rest of your life with yourself. Find that one or two persons you could divulge your secret to, to help keep you and your sanity in check. strap in and have the unique experience of the life you are ment to live. be happy and free like everyone should be. theoretically if you were a pedophile, of course.

  • Jebediah24

    develop a decent imagination, read smut, learn to enjoy just masturbation and prepare to live the rest of your life with yourself. Find that one or two persons you could divulge your secret to, to help keep you and your sanity in check. strap in and have the unique experience of the life you are ment to live. be happy and free like everyone should be. theoretically if you were a pedophile, of course.

  • superpureeliteful

    I have been doing alot of research in Pornography and Sexual abuse of children,and both are closely related,Pornography is a form of slavery for women,but it also slaves men in fantasy,Capitalists make billions and Billions on abuse of women in the Porn Industry,because they have no education and are cornered into a dark business,out of poverty,its the system that is making victims out of children,the whole porn Industry should be scrapped,and Elites and Capitalists should be brought to Justice,i dont believe that pedophiles can be trusted enough til the day society becomes pure in itself,but the people behind the porn industry are corrupting peoples minds and pedophiles and many others,there are other groups of people also known as Ephebophiles,who are also labeled as pedophiles,thanks to the media in America,the core of Society is rotten,they dont care about people,the only solutions is Terrorism to free the people,to create a pure and open society we have to destroy everything that corrupts peoples minds,and spread disease,ignorance comes in the shape of secrecy,Pedophiles have always been around just like Ephebophiles,but they only began to become dangerous after Arthur Kinseys book was published,and they also became dangerous when the porn industry appeared,there was a time when people in the Porn industry were targeted,but that has not happened for 40 years,people have become a customed to porn on the internet,but when you look at women in the porn industry,you are actually looking at some’s child,she maybe 20 or 30 years of age,but she is some ones child,and she is acting out a fantasy that men are looking at,we have a very twisted way of looking at our selves,the word PedoPhile is Latin for child love,it orriginated in greece,as far as i know there was no pain,they were accepted,but it was a different society,there was no disease,no porn,and sexuality was based around love,not money!! or capitalism,Ephebophile is also another word that originated from greece,pedophiles who ever they may be or ephebophiles, are victims of society that has given them false dreams,everything in society is a lie,which turns them into Criminals,the whole of Society is a lie,people are making money out of every ones misery,and thats the truth,and they know what they are doing,they are right at the top,every year in the United States,thousands of children go missing,it was not always like that,America was once an Innocent place before the Elites came,and justified the porn Industry and many other things.these are the people that need to be targeted,american people need to question everything.

  • superpureeliteful

    I have been doing alot of research in Pornography and Sexual abuse of children,and both are closely related,Pornography is a form of slavery for women,but it also slaves men in fantasy,Capitalists make billions and Billions on abuse of women in the Porn Industry,because they have no education and are cornered into a dark business,out of poverty,its the system that is making victims out of children,the whole porn Industry should be scrapped,and Elites and Capitalists should be brought to Justice,i dont believe that pedophiles can be trusted enough til the day society becomes pure in itself,but the people behind the porn industry are corrupting peoples minds and pedophiles and many others,there are other groups of people also known as Ephebophiles,who are also labeled as pedophiles,thanks to the media in America,the core of Society is rotten,they dont care about people,the only solutions is Terrorism to free the people,to create a pure and open society we have to destroy everything that corrupts peoples minds,and spread disease,ignorance comes in the shape of secrecy,Pedophiles have always been around just like Ephebophiles,but they only began to become dangerous after Arthur Kinseys book was published,and they also became dangerous when the porn industry appeared,there was a time when people in the Porn industry were targeted,but that has not happened for 40 years,people have become a customed to porn on the internet,but when you look at women in the porn industry,you are actually looking at some’s child,she maybe 20 or 30 years of age,but she is some ones child,and she is acting out a fantasy that men are looking at,we have a very twisted way of looking at our selves,the word PedoPhile is Latin for child love,it orriginated in greece,as far as i know there was no pain,they were accepted,but it was a different society,there was no disease,no porn,and sexuality was based around love,not money!! or capitalism,Ephebophile is also another word that originated from greece,pedophiles who ever they may be or ephebophiles, are victims of society that has given them false dreams,everything in society is a lie,which turns them into Criminals,the whole of Society is a lie,people are making money out of every ones misery,and thats the truth,and they know what they are doing,they are right at the top,every year in the United States,thousands of children go missing,it was not always like that,America was once an Innocent place before the Elites came,and justified the porn Industry and many other things.these are the people that need to be targeted,american people need to question everything.

  • superpureeliteful

    Take for example Rapists,what makes a rapist rape…..,we need to look at these people’s lives,do they come from a background of povert,no education,did they look at porn alot,what type of up bringing did they have,do they abuse alcohol,do they meet up with prostitutes,ho many failed relationships have they had,do they take drugs,do they come from an Anti-social environment,there is so many areas that need to be looked at,what makes a killer a killer,a rapist a rapist,etc etc,we also need to take a look at social media…,there is alot of Material one has to cover,we nned to know who and what is corrupting people’s minds.

  • superpureeliteful

    Take for example Rapists,what makes a rapist rape…..,we need to look at these people’s lives,do they come from a background of povert,no education,did they look at porn alot,what type of up bringing did they have,do they abuse alcohol,do they meet up with prostitutes,ho many failed relationships have they had,do they take drugs,do they come from an Anti-social environment,there is so many areas that need to be looked at,what makes a killer a killer,a rapist a rapist,etc etc,we also need to take a look at social media…,there is alot of Material one has to cover,we nned to know who and what is corrupting people’s minds.

  • Pedo Phile

    I wanted tips of how could I improve my pedophile skills! Very, very disappointed >:(

  • Jamesshores

    shoot yourself,,save me the bullets and lawyer fees

  • Jamesshores

    shoot yourself,,save me the bullets and lawyer fees

  • Jamesshores

    shoot yourself,,save me the bullets and lawyer fees

  • Jamesshores

    shoot yourself,,save me the bullets and lawyer fees

  • Jamesshores

    shoot yourself,,save me the bullets and lawyer fees

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