Shawn Maxam writes at the Good Men Project:
I am of the opinion that nothing contributes to optimum mental health than a wonderful partner. Can the single individual be happy? Of course! One shouldn’t rely on others for happiness but also one should never deny that someone can help make you happy. Here are a few words about my story:
Rewind to the past: So five years ago is when I first met her. She looked nothing like I expected since we had only initially corresponded via email. She was smiling when I went to shake her hand and said “you thought I was a guy didn’t you?”. Truthfully I didn’t know what gender this person who had sent me an angry email was. I knew they were Black of course hence the outrage. I could expound upon on what are our disagreement was about…but it’s inconsequential to this story.
We decided to sit in the college’s cafe and discuss our differences. She shared her ideas and annoyed me quite a bit. I was getting a lot of feedback and my brain was about to explode. But I still thought she was cute and amiable. Over the next few years she would occupy a weird space in my life. She was more than an acquaintance but less than a friend.
Whenever we did run into each other we always had a very meaningful conversation. Not just the bullshit small-talk that must people attempt to engage you in. I liked her as a person so I always made an attempt to at least stay connected to her via email and at least later Facebook.
She was an interesting person but she seemed very busy and almost untouchable. Not in a Queen Elizabeth II sense but more akin to our planets orbiting different suns. I incorrectly labeled her as high maintenance. I now know all women are high maintenance-LOL! She seemed to be a very classy lady who seemed a lot more serious than she actually is.
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