Male Soldier Writes About Surviving Female-on-Male Rape

Via My Duty to Speak:

Richard, United States Army

When you think of a Predator or Military Sexual Trauma (MST) you think women being raped by men. When you think of Male who has Military Sexual Trauma you think male on male rape. I am a Survivor I have Military Sexual Trauma (MST) PTST & no male has ever touched me.

I was an Active Duty Liaison during this time period. It was my supervisor who was a female “Civilian Employee” during the week and during the weekends she was the First Sergeant. She was in a position as a civilian that she used her higher rank & position to get what she wanted. Then the threats came in… but I had to report it after it took the best of me. Once I reported it to the military they didn’t remove her or change her position. If the role was reversed I as a male would have been moved that day no questions asked. But she got to stay while they investigated it.

I still remember it like it was yesterday, step by step. I want to stop thinking and dreaming about it but it is hard when the person who violated you works at the Dallas VA Hospital where I go for medical care and have been since 2007. I had her as a supervisor for another year and thoughts of suicide was in my head every time I came to work. She would harass and embarrassed me in from of my peers. My doctor put me on 2mg bars of Xanax, 280 pills a month. Then I became an addicted to them. Today I still have to take something for my anxiety; because I see her every time I go to the Dallas VA Hospital for medical appointments.

When I came off active duty I didn’t leave my house for over two years which means no medication for my injuries and Military Sexual Trauma or my Combat Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I was too scared to go to the Dallas VA to get treatment because I found out that she worked there. Yes, it has been over ten years and it still has a big impact on my life today. I was a broken down soldier and didn’t know what I was going to do or why I was still living. Today I still cannot sleep, have anxiety, panic attacks, flashbacks, and broken relationship with my fiancée who I had dated over five years. I became a work alcoholic and buried myself in my work. I felt ashamed like I did something wrong.

When I reported it not more than five minutes I received a phone call from both of our supervisor who started screaming at me as loud as she could over the phone. She kept telling me I was a lair and why would I do this to her. This went on for over 30 minutes I broken down over the phone & told her that I was telling the truth but she didn’t believe me. Once I got off the phone I went and told the head person in charge of the hold battalion during the week days. She was also my First Sergeant on the weekends which means she was using her military rank as in uniform during the weekends and during the week days she was in civilian position. She was what they called dual status reservist and civilian personnel and she was a predator. I had never in my life taken pills.

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  • Turbovw87

    hahaha. u loved it. get over it.

    • Marcy

      Obvious troll is obvious.

    • billybob2

       “Get over it?”  Not something you tell a rape victim. Grow up.

  • Das Guest

    After reading the article I still don’t understand what happened. Was he drugged? Was it a threat on his career? Or was it classic “strength=rape” which some how unless she is the female hulk I don’t take as a serious possibility. I’m not trying to make light of his situation, just doesn’t sound like “rape” to me. I mean if I had been through this I don’t think I would be quite so vague as to how this happened aside from letting people know she said “I get what I want” at the end of it, I MEAN HOW THE FUCK DID IT START?

    • Der Other Guest

      I’m with this guy. In these female-on-male rapes, I’m always curious as to how the man would let himself be assaulted if he is physically stronger than the assailant. 

      • VaudeVillain

        Well for one thing, he might not be physically stronger, but even if he is (or once was) it wouldn’t really matter, since using force would mean a long stay in Hotel Leavenworth.

        Social and legal power can be abused just like physical power, leave dramatically less evidence of the event, and by nature make it harder to seek any form of justice… or even to report the event.

  • Sharpfingeredheed

    No offence, really, but what the hell is this?  Disinfo, stop putting out shit articles with wild claims in the headlines!!! 

  • Guest

    toughen up princess..

    • bobbiethejean

       Would you say that to a little girl who was raped?

      • Mogley71

         hes not a little girl and he should probably take a jiu jitsu class or two

        • http://profile.yahoo.com/G4PIYYYRQ2HBEGUKHBOIFLNVMQ Grewsel Goatsford

          And he’s meant to be a soldier of sorts? Strong character lol

          • Andrew

            So getting raped is a sign of weak character?

          • http://profile.yahoo.com/G4PIYYYRQ2HBEGUKHBOIFLNVMQ Grewsel Goatsford

            Yeah if you’re a little bitch who despite being the stronger sex, gets raped by a female…

          • Andrew

            Misandrist!

          • http://profile.yahoo.com/G4PIYYYRQ2HBEGUKHBOIFLNVMQ Grewsel Goatsford

            Faggot!

        • bobbiethejean

          You’re an idiot. How would Ju jitsu have helped a soldier being forced into sex by a superior?  If anything, that would have made things ten times worse for him. It’s jackasses like you that enable rape culture, especially as far as male victims are concerned.

  • Miracles

    fapping so hard right now

  • Yousuck

    This story is bullshit 280 2mg xanax pills a month? hmm out of a 30 day month thats what about 10mgs of xanax of day. Im sorry but thats impossible for those of you who dont know about 4mgs of xanax will have you on your ass, let alone 10mg would knock you out for a atleast a day or two. Another point your a soldier trained to protect America but you cant keep a women off you when she makes you feel uncomfortable? Sounds like you werent fit to be in the army in the first place. 

  • bobbiethejean

    Join the club of 33%+ military women who will be raped and completely ignored, marginalized, or even dishonorably tossed because they accidentally had a vagina.

    I will say this: Rape is rape is rape. It doesn’t matter who did what to who – if there isn’t consent, IT’S RAPE. And yes, it CAN happen to men and yes, women CAN be the perpetrators.

  • Mogley71

    to be completely honest i was lured into reading this because it was turning me on.

    • Andrew

      Talk to a therapist.

  • Mogley71

    not being a dick (pun intended) but for a woman to rape you in the classical sense you would have to get hard and if you are hard arent you enjoying it?

    • Andrew

      Talk to a urologist.

    • Erik Stehlar

      Not all erections are voluntary. As a dick, you should know this.

  • John Dc

    Another Bull Crap article.  

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