Conner Habib Asks “Why Are We Afraid to Talk About Gay Porn?”

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Following the cancellation of a contract to speak at a high school, gay pornographic film star, writer, intellectual and friend Conner Habib wrote a very thoughtful piece about sexuality and pornography for buzzfeed.com. I think it’s well worth a read:

Via Buzzfeed:

Corning, New York. Find it on the map: it hovers just above the Pennsylvania border, a long ways away from the two closest places you’ve heard of, Syracuse and Rochester. Like the small town I grew up in, it’s all alone.

Two months ago, I was approached by a curious and thoughtful group of students from Corning Community College. The students, including members of the school’s LGBT organization, invited me to speak at the school as part of their upcoming sex-positive community event, Sex Week. Other events during Sex Week include a Q&A about sex toys, and a discussion about pleasure and communication by members of Planned Parenthood and the Rape Crisis center.

In small towns like Corning, the loneliness that LGBT people can feel — for lack of community, peers, and resources — can sometimes be transformed into determination. When people from small towns feel like the discussions they want to have are absent, they work to create them. Their town and school, the students told me, needed more open discussions about sex, about LGBT issues, so they were going to make it happen.

I agreed to be a part of it, and administrators signed my speaker’s contract shortly thereafter.

Last week, I was informed by Corning Community College Vice President and Dean of Student Development, Don Heins, that the school’s president, Katherine Douglas, had singled out my talk and decided to cancel it, against student wishes. They agreed to honor the contract (which they’d signed off on and which contained a cancellation fee), but they were worried that the talk would be “controversial.” I wasn’t scheduled to speak about porn, but to talk more broadly on sex and culture. The reason I was banned was because she’d changed her mind after discovering that I was not, as she’d thought, an educator who used to be in porn, but rather a university instructor before I started appearing in adult films.

I was told she stated, emphatically and more than once, that pornography cannot and should not be linked to LGBT rights.

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  • http://twitter.com/TheOvertOddity Mary

    Speaking of gay porn, I read this article and would love to see it reposted – scary shit yo. http://rt.com/usa/conway-survivalist-carolina-charges-442/ Thanks Matt!

    • David Duke-Astin

      way to stay on topic….

      • http://twitter.com/TheOvertOddity Mary

        I had a segue…

        • http://twitter.com/TedHeistman Ted Heistman

          The Eat Pray Love chick wrote a book about him back before she was an Oprah celeb.

  • BuzzCoastin

    “Why Are We Afraid to Talk About Gay Porn?”

    my first guess would be
    because they’re not gay
    and my second would be
    because they are gay

    porn (gay/straight/bestial/fetish etc etc) is much more opening discussed
    by those under 30
    those over 30, for the most part
    have their heads up their asses for psychic protection
    better to have your head up your ass
    than a drone

    • Calypso_1

      I can see the possibility of an underlying design convergence between drones & the sex toy industry.

    • obsidianobelisk

      I’ve noticed you comment on this site in stanzas. Any practical reason?

      • BuzzCoastin

        if I did this on Twitter
        no one would ask
        but the few literate minds still left wonder

        Any practical reason reason for the upside down avatar?

        • obsidianobelisk

          There’s no specific or practical reason for the avatar orientation. Thanks for noticing.

  • Andrew

    I’m afraid to talk about gay porn because I’m not good at hiding my ignorance.

  • echar

    I appreciate the opportunity for new information. It’s upsetting to see the censorship going on. I am an ally, and I do admit I was unaware of what porn means to the LGBT culture. It really shouldn’t be a surprise considering the accolades Kenneth Anger gets for works like Fireworks. Which isn’t really porn, but maybe is alluding to sexual acts.

    • David Duke-Astin

      alluding to sexual acts. Unlike the movies made by and about straight people. Those movies never allude to sexual acts.

      • echar

        Kenneth Anger is gay, and the movie was made in 1947.

        • David Duke-Astin

          noted

  • Daenerys_Targaryen

    LGBT rights want respectability, is why.they don’t want association with pr0n. (Also they distance themselves from currently illegal sex acts, where gay rights arguments might consistently apply.)

    This happened before when they joined the anti-psychiatry movement – once they got what they wanted, they sold out to distance themselves from the rest of the ‘mentally ill’.

    Right now gays are shifting pro-life, cause they know what happens when they find the ‘gay gene’. Up till now they worked (vocally) to undermine conservative values, now conservatives are going to be their lifeline.

    • David Duke-Astin

      You seem to think gay people are one mass – a hive mind. Not so. The article refers to a particular group at a particular institution that didn’t want to be associated with porn. There’s no evidence one way or another that gay people (or anyone else) have a problem with porn.

      I don’t know what you are referring to when you say “anti-psychiatry movement”. You make it sound as if gay people are playing some sort of a game. What is up with your perceptions?

      There’s no evidence that gays are “shifting pro-life”. Nobody is talking about a gay gene. And there are plenty of gay conservatives. BTW: Maybe conservative values (such as discrimination) need to be undermined.

      No call for the disrespect that you show.

      • Daenerys_Targaryen

        Politics is a game, and pressure groups take positions as such. And I never said anything about ‘all gays’. but about gay activism which speaks (ostensibly?) on their behalf. When it comes to political and social movements, activists are all that matter, and not whoever they’re claiming to represent.

        Its well attested that back when homosexuality was regarded as a mental illness, gay activism was understandably well integrated into the anti-psych movement.

        And yes, the gay agenda (and yes, you know who they are) does make repeated references to a theoretical gay gene and in fact misrepresents the idea as though it were a proven fact to place ‘homophobia’ on an equivalent level to ‘racism’.

        • David Duke-Astin

          Anyone who uses the phrase “the gay agenda” is hopelessly ignorant. we’re through here.

          • Daenerys_Targaryen

            Anyone who would deny the gay agenda exists is trying to distance themselves from reality. We know who they are and what they support, are you saying there’s no such thing as an organised gay rights lobby which implies they have an agenda? Yea rite…

          • David Duke-Astin

            clearly you think it’s bad to organize for equal treatment under the law.

          • Daenerys_Targaryen

            Besides the fact that any such attempt to ‘organize for equal treatment under the law’ constitutes in fact an agenda, the idea that marriage is about love and choice is not universally shared nor is it the default opinion.

            It is not irrational and prudish homophobia you understand. Its the nature of society – either society is first and foremost a system of individuals agreeing upon contracts, or it is essentially a series of duties which may not be consensual (taxation, obeying the law etc).

            Issues such as gay marriage and adoption are not on someone’s radar, if they view society as an organic series of obligations for the common good of a population.

          • Guest

            whatever

  • Geoff Henry

    To answer the question in the title, I’d hope they have something better to do. Fuck with all the actual problems in the world, this is what you think is important?! You deserve to be enslaved by by the coming fascist leadership.

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