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What the nose knows

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Losing your sense of smell takes away more than scents and flavours – it can fundamentally change the way you relate to other people, writes Emma Young.

Nick Johnson skims the lunch menu at the White Dog Cafe, a warren of little rooms and ante-rooms in Philadelphia’s university district. “Beef empanadas… I would have loved those. But all that braised beef would just get lost on me. Fish and chips I avoid: all fried foods taste the same. I’m looking at the fish tacos. I know I’ll get the spicy heat and a little bit of pineapple flavour, and with the peppers and the guacamole, there’ll be some mouthfeel there.”

He orders the tacos, and we get a beer that’s on tap. It’s called Nugget Nectar, and it’s produced by the local craft brewery that Nick’s worked at for the past ten years. Nugget Nectar used to be his favourite beer.… Read the rest

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Cultivating Extraordinary Relationships w/ Shivoso Pheonix ~ ATTMind Radio Ep. 11

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Shivoso Pheonix joins ATTMind Radio this week to speak about what it means to create an extraordinary relationship and the most common hurdles we face in achieving such a connection; the influence childhood experiences have on how we relate as adults; the “deeper purpose of relationships”; polyamory & monogamy; and the transcendental power of lovemaking.

Shivoso is relationship coach with 4+ years  studying with Charles Muir and the Source School of Tantra until becoming an ACTE (Advanced Certified Tantric Educator) and 10 years of studying and teaching all aspects of relationships including the psychology, physiology, cultural influences and spiritual dimensions.

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Natural Sex & The Distinguished Man w/ Sasha Cobra ~ ATTMind Radio Ep. 8

Sash cobra promo picThis week's guest is Sasha Cobra, internationally-recognized teacher on human sexuality and what it means to act in alignment with one's authenticity.

With a lucid quality, Sasha articulates a model for human integrity as it pertains to Relating, Sexuality and Spirituality. We also discuss masculine and feminine energies in the body and in the universe, the most common hurdle men and woman face in their early stages of maturation, how this model fits into the LGBT community, and what she means when she says "Natural Sexuality".

This was a great learning experience for me and I am grateful to share it with you.
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Creating love in the lab: The 36 questions that spark intimacy

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Yasmin Anwar via Phys.org:

Around the time of the Summer of Love in 1967, Arthur Aron, then a UC Berkeley graduate student in psychology, kissed fellow student Elaine Spaulding in front of Dwinelle Hall. What they felt at that moment was so profound that they soon married and teamed up to investigate the mysteries of attraction and intimacy.

“I fell in love very intensely,” said Aron, a visiting scholar at UC Berkeley and research professor at Stony Brook University in New York. “Given that I was studying social psychology, just for fun I looked for the research on love, but there was almost none.”

So he took it on. In the nearly 50 years that Arthur and Elaine Aron have studied love, they have developed three dozen to create closeness in a lab setting. The result is not unlike the accelerated that can happen between strangers on an airplane or other close quarters.

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How Having a Foursome Opened Up My Relationship

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Stuart Richards (CC BY-ND 2.0)

via AlterNet:

My boyfriend and I were happily monogamous. We had been together for nearly a year. And until the day it happened, the idea of having sex with other people was just a thought experiment, something we talked about for fun. It was never something we were actually going to do.

Such is the case for most American adults.  According to a recent study, 56 percent of women and 83 percent of men have a fantasy of having sex with someone other than a current spouse or partner.  It’s so widespread that the researchers deemed it a common fantasy. And for most people, it remains a fantasy — a naughty mental space in which the mind can wander, and stay for a while.  It usually doesn’t turn into reality — but it did for me.

My fantasy of a foursome began after college.

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Synthetic Love: Married to a Doll

Davecat lives with his wife and mistress, both dolls, and thinks synthetic partners are ideal for those who don’t want to deal with humans’ inconsistencies. (Atlantic article.)

Davecat met his future wife, Sidore Kuroneko at a goth club in 2000, so the story goes. The less romantic but perhaps more true version is that he saved up for a year and a half to buy her online. She cost about $6,000.

Sidore is a RealDoll, manufactured by Abyss Creations in the shape of a human woman. She is covered in artificial skin made of silicone, so she’s soft. These high-end, anatomically correct—even equipped with fake tongues—love dolls (or capital-D Dolls) are ostensibly made for sex. But 40-year-old Davecat (a nickname acquired from videogames that he now prefers to go by) and others who call themselves iDollators see their dolls as life partners, not sex toys. Davecat and Sidore (or, as he sometimes calls her, Shi-chan) obviously aren’t legally married, but they do have matching wedding bands that say “Synthetik [sic] love lasts forever,” and he says they’re considering some sort of ceremony for their 15th anniversary.

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NSA Officers Have Stalked And Spied On Their “Love Interests”

love interestsVia the Wall Street Journal, presenting your creepy ex who works for the NSA:

National Security Agency officers on several occasions have channeled their agency’s enormous eavesdropping power to spy on love interests, U.S. officials said. One official estimated a handful of cases in the last decade — but it’s common enough to garner its own spycraft label: LOVEINT.

Spy agencies often refer to their various types of intelligence collection with the suffix of “INT,” such as “SIGINT” for collecting signals intelligence, or communications; and “HUMINT” for human intelligence, or spying.

NSA said in a statement Friday that there have been “very rare” instances of willful violations of any kind in the past decade, and none have violated key surveillance laws.

The LOVEINT violations involved overseas communications, officials said, such as spying on a partner or spouse. In each instance, the employee was punished either with an administrative action or termination.

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Study Finds Astrological Signs Don’t Affect Success Of Romantic Relationships

astrological signsThis news could shake up a lot of people's worlds. Smithsonian Magazine writes:
A team from the University of Manchester analyzed 10 million marriages, using census data from the U.K. and inferring astrological signs from couples’ birth dates. Astrologists have ideas about which signs make the best matches—a Sagittarius is better off with a Leo or Aquarius than a Cancer. But the University of Manchester team found that lonely hearts who worry about the zodiac are wasting their time. The study concludes: "This research shows that astrological sign has no impact on the probability of marrying – and staying married to – someone of any other sign."
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British Politician Claims He’s Having Affair With An Alien

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He says nonetheless he remains focused on fixing the potholes in Whitby. Via the Mirror:

A Labour politician has sensationally claimed that an extra terrestrial affair is ruining his marriage. Simon Parkes, town councillor for Stakesby in Whitby, says he has sex with the alien, who he refers to as the Cat Queen, around four times a year.

He even claims to have fathered an extraterrestrial lovechild called Zarka and says having sex with the alien has caused tension in his marriage: “My wife found out about it and was very unhappy, clearly. But it is not on a human level, so I don’t see it as wrong.”

“What will happen is that we will hold hands and I say ‘I’m ready’ and then the technology I don’t understand will take us up to a craft orbiting the earth.”

He says his work is unaffected: “It’s a personal matter. I’m more interested in fixing someone’s leaking roof or potholes.”

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“Hard Lessons Learned From Tough People”: Jake Adelstein

The seven lessons:

  1. Know the difference between hearing and listening, and learn to listen to people.
  2. Repay the kindness bestowed upon you, keep your code, all is good.
  3. There are no small promises. A man’s promise should weigh more than his life.
  4. It’s okay to be betrayed, just don’t be the betrayer. Betray others and you betray yourself. You won’t be able to trust anyone.
  5. The enemy of my enemy is my friend. You can tell more about a man by his enemies than you can by his friends. A man with no enemies is worthless.
  6. In life we only encounter the injustices we are meant to correct.
  7. If you want to live well you have to die once.

 

 

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