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Are You a Porn Addict? Or Do You Just Hate Yourself For Beating Off So Much?

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A new study recently came out that supposedly sheds some light on the issue of porn addiction. Unless you have been living in complete isolation, porn addiction is rather a hot topic right now. With Josh Duggar copping to being a porn addict in the wake of the Ashley Madison scandal, debate on whether or not porn addiction is real has been more prevalent than usual.

Of course, a lot of the problem is the word “addict” in the first place in this context. As a sex addict, who has been to rehab, I have heard many times how sex addiction doesn’t exist. To a degree, I understand that. It certainly is hard to wrap one’s head around the idea that one could be addicted to beating off while staring at a screen, or in my case, to manipulating women and having sex with multiple partners.

According to the study, while one may feel he or she has an addiction to porn, that isn’t the issue at all.… Read the rest

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How Having Too Much Sex Almost Destroyed My Life

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Sarah Scicluna (CC BY-ND 2.)

Amanda Van Slyke at AlterNet explores the ramifications of being a female sex addict. We’ve explored sex addiction on Disinformation before, and I thought readers may be interested in what a woman sex addict has to say.

Amanda Van Slyke via AlterNet:

I’m at the checkout buying groceries when the blonde cashier looks into my eyes and smiles. When I go to leave, she does it again and tells me to have a great day—but I swear she was friendlier to me than to the people who came through before I did.

After I leave, I stand in the rain and wait for the bus, running the experience through my mind, analyzing her smile, her voice and what she meant by it all. Was my plaid shirt/toque ensemble giving off the stereotypical sign that I’m attracted to women? Was she hitting on me because she’s also attracted to them, or was I over-exaggerating her friendly demeanor?

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“Raping the Gods” Examines the Question: Is Sex Addiction Real?

71dlVRUUuSL._SL1315_Although author Brian Whitney is, without a doubt, a sex addict, he doesn’t like the term.

“I hate it when people call me an addict. Some people think sex addiction doesn’t exist, that it is just a made-up term to excuse bad behavior. Another group thinks that a sex addict is a crazy, out-of-control freak who thinks of nothing but getting laid every second of every day. Then there is a third group that thinks it sounds fun: ‘What are you complaining about, man? You get laid all the time and you think it’s a problem?’”

“I could tell a lot of stories about what I was doing, but I’d rather just say I was really fucked up. My major issue was infidelity. I was often involved in three or four different relationships at once. I got an enormous rush from having multiple sexual partners and lying to all of them.… Read the rest

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DSK And The French Sexual Libertines

Dominique Strauss-Kahn - Strauss-Kahn meeting in Toulouse for the 2007 French presidential election 0032 2007-04-13 croppedDominique Strauss-Kahn, a/k/a DSK the French politician who fled New York after allegedly sexually abusing a hotel worker, can’t keep off the front page of the New York Times, which today entertains its readers with tales of swinger parties held for DSK where the main man would have sex with multiple partners, often including prostitutes:

More than a year after resigning in disgrace as the managing director of the International Monetary Fund, Dominique Strauss-Kahn is seeking redemption with a new consulting company, the lecture circuit and a uniquely French legal defense to settle a criminal inquiry that exposed his hidden life as a libertine.

Mr. Strauss-Kahn, 63, a silver-haired economist, is seeking to throw out criminal charges in an inquiry into ties to a prostitution ring in northern France with the legal argument that the authorities are unfairly trying to “criminalize lust.”

That defense and the investigation, which is facing a critical judicial hearing in late November, have offered a keyhole view into a clandestine practice in certain powerful circles of French society: secret soirees with lawyers, judges, police officials, journalists and musicians that start with a fine meal and end with naked guests and public sex with multiple partners.

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Sex Addiction – A Real Epidemic?

Newsweek devotes some serious column inches to the "epidemic" that has made its way into popular awareness via notable celebrities such as Tiger Woods and Domenique Strauss-Kahn:
Valerie realized that sex was wrecking her life right around the time her second marriage disintegrated. At 30, and employed as a human-resources administrator in Phoenix, she had serially cheated on both her husbands—often with their subordinates and co-workers—logging anonymous hookups in fast-food-restaurant bathrooms, affairs with married men, and one-night stands too numerous to count. But Valerie couldn’t stop. Not even after one man’s wife aimed a shotgun at her head while catching them in flagrante delicto. Valerie called phone-sex chat lines and pored over online pornography, masturbating so compulsively that it wasn’t uncommon for her to choose her vibrator over going to work. She craved public exhibitionism, too, particularly at strip clubs, and even accepted money in exchange for sex—not out of financial necessity but for the illicit rush such acts gave her. For Valerie, sex was a form of self-medication: to obliterate the anxiety, despair...
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Dirty Girls Who Are Addicted To Porn

dirty girlsNot quite your average New York Times story:

LENEXA, Kan. — It was the final session for the women at Westside Family Church’s Victory Over Porn Addiction group, and the youngest member, a 17-year-old named Kelsie, had not had a good week.

“I slipped two nights this week,” she said, to nods of support from the other women in the group.

“I decided that every time I’m tempted I’ll just let everything out to God,” she said, “then pray specifically for someone else, do selfless acts, to get away from being selfish.”

The group’s leader, Crystal Renaud, offered gentle counsel. “Pray for yourself, too,” she said.

To the wide array of programs offered by evangelical megachurches like Westside, the group adds what Ms. Renaud says is something long overdue. While churches have addressed pornography use among the men in their congregations and among the clergy, a group for women who say they are addicted to pornography is new territory, she said.

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