I have worked as a professional in the human services and as an advocate of social justice for nearly two decades. I have worked with thousands of children and families in multiple roles including as a mental health counselor, parenting coach, social worker, educator, and mentor. I am also the proud Mom of a 21-year-old son who I adopted from the foster care system when he was 11. Through my extensive research and work with children and families over many years, I have been able to see the threads of how childhood trauma and attachment breaks in each individual family can lead to the tragic tapestry of global human suffering. Family violence is almost always a symptom of trauma and unmet emotional and physical needs, usually in the childhoods of the adults. I believe that hurt people need compassion, healing and guidance, not punishment. My passion is to heal human suffering at its root causes and to offer people compassion and hope.… Read the rest
Tag Archives | Sexual Assault
Jasmine Subrata writing at Thought Catalog:
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I didn’t know what a men’s rights activist was until I fell in love with one. He didn’t know I was a feminist until our First Big Argument. Every couple went through one, but I doubt any of them had one based on something as petty as ours.
My boyfriend is a cis white male of European descent. He is 6’7, barely fits through a doorframe, listens to indie music and enjoys video games more than puppies. I grew up in a third world country and am currently studying overseas, where I met him through a mutual. I am a feminist because in my country, patriarchy is rampant, child brides are aplenty, and street harassment is commonplace. My boyfriend is an MRA because after objectively comparing the issues of both genders in a first-world context, he finds that the male activists need more support in fighting for their issues.
It seems like each day we hear about another problem for Uber. Over the past year, Uber has faced numerous regulatory issues and consistent bad publicity. Issues such as spying on journalists, pushing drivers into subprime auto loans, and being banned in some countries are just a few issues that come to mind. See the map below if you need a refresher about their many recent public relations gems.
In fact, Uber faced more regulatory conflicts in 2014 than all previous years of its existence combined.
Perhaps the most disturbing issue is that Uber has profited at the expense of the safety of some of their customers. In New Delhi, Uber has been banned after an Uber driver was accused of raping a 25 year old woman. According to a Change.org petition, the driver was a repeat offender, previously spending seven months in jail for sexual assault.… Read the rest
Abby Martin interviews Terry O’Neill, President of the National Organization for Women, about the Rolling Stone article about an alleged rape that took place on the campus of University of Virginia and how the discovery that details of the case were untrue will impact sexual assault victims.
Abby Zimet writes at Common Dreams:
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In an unprecedented move as part of the Obama administration’s effort to combat sexual violence at colleges – said to strike one in five women – the Department of Education has released a list of 55 universities currently under investigation for mishandling sexual assault cases under Title IX gender equity laws. The White House has also set up the website Notalone.gov to offer information on Title IX rights and complaints, and has released a report with guidelines, recommendations and model policies for schools. The list of schools under investigation includes some usual suspects – Occidental, Florida , Chapel Hill – but also a slew of way pricey, top-tier schools you’d think would know better but evidently don’t, including Harvard, Princeton, Dartmouth, Vanderbilt, Penn State, Catholic University and the Universities of Chicago and Southern California. The push to hold these places accountable has come in large part from rights advocates, who note that federal authorities have never sanctioned any school for sexual violence violations under Title IX.
An unnamed priest affiliated with the breakaway Catholic sect The Society of St. Pius X has been charged with the 2010 rape and torture of three French schoolteachers during an “exorcism”. Authorities will not name the priest’s name for fear that doing so may identify the victims.
The Society of St. Pius X is a radical traditionalist Catholic splinter group and is not recognized by the Roman Catholic Church. Its members, in turn, reject the authority of the Pope. The Society has faced much criticism over the years from people who consider its teachings anti-Semitic and reactionary: Founder Marcel Lefebvre was vocal in his praise of France’s Vichy government and advocacy for the return of absolute monarchy.
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Police say the priest raped three women in the autumn of 2010 after he met them at the private religious school Ecole Notre-Dame-de-la Sablonniere in Goussonville, west of Paris, which he was running at the time, according to French media reports.
Janet Allon writes at AlterNet:
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In tiny Norwood, Colorado, a state high-school wrestling tournament turned into a nightmare for one of the team’s youngest members, when the 13-year-old was cornered, bound with duct tape and sodomized with a pencil, in what was called a “hazing” incident.
More outrageous still, is that this was only the beginning of the trauma he endured, after reporting the attack. He was bullied, ostracized, and humiliated on Facebook. Supporters of his attackers wore T-shirts supporting them, two of whom just happened to be sons of the wrestling coach, Robert Harris, according to the Denver Post. Just to add another strange wrinkle to this sad tale, the victim was the son of the school’s principal, begging the question: If he’s not safe, who is?
Sexual assault as part of brutal hazing rituals for sports teams is on the rise, with more than 40 high school boys reporting being sodomized by foreign objects by teammates in the last year.
Via the Good Men Project:
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Editor’s note: We want to open this article with a warning: we are reprinting, in full, the suicide note left by a young man named Trey Malone, who killed himself when he was unable to cope any longer with the sexual assault he had suffered as a student at Amherst College. To say it might be triggering for those sensitive to issues of suicide and sexual assault is an understatement.
Trey’s family support the publication of his final words. They have provided the text of the note to us, and we are publishing it with their approval. More importantly, we are publishing it because it was written to educate. In his last words, Trey speaks of important issues that go unexamined, important voices that go unheard. He writes to a society that, in the end, couldn’t help him enough. He wanted the things he was saying to be heard, and so, in accordance with that wish, we are publishing his words.
Via My Duty to Speak:
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Richard, United States Army
When you think of a Predator or Military Sexual Trauma (MST) you think women being raped by men. When you think of Male who has Military Sexual Trauma you think male on male rape. I am a Survivor I have Military Sexual Trauma (MST) PTST & no male has ever touched me.
I was an Active Duty Liaison during this time period. It was my supervisor who was a female “Civilian Employee” during the week and during the weekends she was the First Sergeant. She was in a position as a civilian that she used her higher rank & position to get what she wanted. Then the threats came in… but I had to report it after it took the best of me. Once I reported it to the military they didn’t remove her or change her position. If the role was reversed I as a male would have been moved that day no questions asked.
Violet Blue explains why the new SlutWalk protests are “a significant tipping point in cultural evolution” — and she’s serious. “Yes: I think scantily clad girls marching in the streets around the world are agents of change for our species.”
It started in April when a Toronto cop said that to stay safe from rape, women “should avoid dressing like sluts”. Soon “my clothes are not my consent” protests erupted, and the event “had an international identity within a few months,” representing “a huge reclamation and restatement about boundaries and women’s bodies.”
Now sex workers, young exhibitionists, high-heel feminists and random pissed-off women are marching “for the right to dress as they like while having their boundaries respected,” and Violet calls them the true punk rockers — the disruptors. “They’re the ones with the brass ovaries enough to dress like sluts and tell the world to STFU about what they should, or shouldn’t do, with their sexiness.”
“Maybe that’s why its critics are panicking and handwringing as if Invaders From Mars have come out of a time machine from the future in heels and hose, reminding everyone that their face is up here!”