Tag Archives | Sexuality

Queerfeminism

Pic: Amadhi (PD)

Pic: Amadhi (PD)

I am a male, I am also queer, and throughout my life I have maintained a steady albeit contentious allegiance with  the philosophy of feminism.  Now before we all pull out our fedoras and start a manly chant let me also say that my perspective on the ideology is shaped by my political beliefs as well as my understanding of gender theory, which I will admit, is not incredibly extensive, but I feel as though it is enough to throw in my two cents on the issue.

There is a horrible divide these days within the media wherein pundits enjoy the splendor of being able to toss around political buzzwords without being at all educated about the meaning behind them. A tragic example being the word “socialism”, as shown when a heavily opinionated fox news telecaster scorchingly slanders a progressive scapegoat by verbally assaulting him with the umbrella term “socialist”,  thereby heaping upon the individual all the tenets of every failed regime operating under a red flag from the 1920′s onward.… Read the rest

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How I Became a Queer Heterosexual

Pic: iamiyouareyou (CC)

Pic: iamiyouareyou (CC)

Clyde Smith, writing for the International Conference on Sexuality “Beyond Boundaries” in 1997:

This is the story of how I became a queer heterosexual. It begins in North Carolina where I spent most of my life till I was twenty-nine years old. There I developed a flexible conception of gender and an openness to others’ sexual orientation but held on to binaries of male and female, hetero and homo. The bulk of my story focuses on a three year period spent in San Francisco where I was immersed in a queer milieu. There I learned a great deal about further possibilities for sexual and gendered identity that went beyond rigid binaries. Much of this learning occurred in queer territory and led to my alignment with that identity yet my initial inability to claim such a title. I close with my experiences after leaving San Francisco and my eventual coming out as a queer heterosexual.

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Online Orgasm Classes Taught by a Tantra Practition

Yoni mudra used in Yoga practice.

Yoni mudra used in Yoga practice. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) (PD)

Everything good can come of this.

via Your Tango

I Went To School To Learn How To Orgasm Better

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Could a six-week course help me achieve a bigger O? Only one way to find out.

I’m lying down on the floor, trying to make my hooha “dance”. I’m not sure if she’s really dancing, but she is grinding to Nine Inch Nails’ “Closer”. No, I am not in some new age dance class. I’m in search of a better orgasm.

While I can come without fail, thanks to the help of my favorite hot Pink Rabbit vibrator, sex-induced orgasms are a little trickier to achieve. Maybe it’s because I’ve had a lifetime of Jacuzzi and vibrator-induced orgasms. Maybe it’s because with my vibrator I can choose to use it when I’m in the mood. With my boyfriend, it’s a little different.

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Synthetic Love: Married to a Doll

Davecat lives with his wife and mistress, both dolls, and thinks synthetic partners are ideal for those who don’t want to deal with humans’ inconsistencies. (Atlantic article.)

Davecat met his future wife, Sidore Kuroneko at a goth club in 2000, so the story goes. The less romantic but perhaps more true version is that he saved up for a year and a half to buy her online. She cost about $6,000.

Sidore is a RealDoll, manufactured by Abyss Creations in the shape of a human woman. She is covered in artificial skin made of silicone, so she’s soft. These high-end, anatomically correct—even equipped with fake tongues—love dolls (or capital-D Dolls) are ostensibly made for sex. But 40-year-old Davecat (a nickname acquired from videogames that he now prefers to go by) and others who call themselves iDollators see their dolls as life partners, not sex toys. Davecat and Sidore (or, as he sometimes calls her, Shi-chan) obviously aren’t legally married, but they do have matching wedding bands that say “Synthetik [sic] love lasts forever,” and he says they’re considering some sort of ceremony for their 15th anniversary.

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What Will The Mainstream Make of Polyamory

A recent post on Modern Mythology raises questions about the recent mainstream obsession with polyamory:

Thanks in part to the Showtime series “Polyamory: Married and Dating,” it seems yet another subaltern is coming out of the closet (or bedroom) and into the mainstream.

It is predictable enough that it would be presented on SHO in a way that is easiest to digest for the American mainstream. Yet the examples posed there are staid modifications to the familiar. I would prefer the actual gamut of possibilities be presented. The show reads as another variation on swingers. So, what are White American suburbanites (or urbanites) to make of this new “fad”?

One of the challenges presented by this desire, (as was discussed in an earlier tongue-in-cheek article, “Postmodernogamy“): at its core polyamory presents not an alternate model to monogamy so much as a revolution against all formal and static cultural mores which say “this way and no other.”

Now that gay marriage seems to be approaching normalcy, new labels are needed to keep the relationship news cycle churning, all the while missing the only radical point presented by what is otherwise nothing more than the simple result of modernization on outdated cultural edifices: There is no model of “typical” polyamory, as it is and should be specific to every unique individual and their unique interactions.… Read the rest

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Researchers Warn of the Dangers of Indulging in Used Condom Fetish

Cant_c985b7_1305487Apparently this is a thing. You’re welcome.

Via Live Science:

And in his efforts to raise awareness about the STI-related dangers of “masturbating, ingesting, or inserting [the contents of used condoms] into the anus,” Tremayne also relates to us the following tale about a sailor’s gonorrhea and the unlikely culprit that infected him with this dreadful affliction…

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The Strange World Of Sociopolitical Sex Fetishes

In a segment of the 1996 documentary Fetishes, filmmaker Nick Broomfield uncovers an unsettling realm of human sexuality – fetishes that reflect historical and sociopolitical realities through a twisted mirror:

Just when I thought i’d seen it all, I encountered [fetish] sessions that seemed to stem directly from social and political issues…the dilemma of a white policeman who worked a black area…several Jewish clients were into concentration camp scenarios…some black clients were into plantation scenarios. Most fetishes are the eroticizations of one’s worst fears and nightmares:

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Men May Have Natural Aversion to Adultery With Friends’ Wives

Via ScienceDaily:

After outgrowing teenage infatuations with the girl next door, adult males seem to be biologically designed to avoid amorous attractions to the wife next door, according to a University of Missouri study that found adult males’ testosterone levels dropped when they were interacting with the marital partner of a close friend. Understanding the biological mechanisms that keep men from constantly competing for each others’ wives may shed light on how people manage to cooperate on the levels of neighborhoods, cities and even globally.

“Although men have many chances to pursue a friend’s mate, propositions for adultery are relatively rare on a per opportunity basis,” said Mark Flinn, professor of anthropology in the College of Arts and Science. “Men’s testosterone levels generally increase when they are interacting with a potential sexual partner or an enemy’s mate. However, our findings suggest that men’s minds have evolved to foster a situation where the stable pair bonds of friends are respected.”

Flinn says that these findings might help solve global problems.

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Conner Habib Asks “Why Are We Afraid to Talk About Gay Porn?”

Picture: Conner Habib (C)

Following the cancellation of a contract to speak at a high school, gay pornographic film star, writer, intellectual and friend Conner Habib wrote a very thoughtful piece about sexuality and pornography for buzzfeed.com. I think it’s well worth a read:

Via Buzzfeed:

Corning, New York. Find it on the map: it hovers just above the Pennsylvania border, a long ways away from the two closest places you’ve heard of, Syracuse and Rochester. Like the small town I grew up in, it’s all alone.

Two months ago, I was approached by a curious and thoughtful group of students from Corning Community College. The students, including members of the school’s LGBT organization, invited me to speak at the school as part of their upcoming sex-positive community event, Sex Week. Other events during Sex Week include a Q&A about sex toys, and a discussion about pleasure and communication by members of Planned Parenthood and the Rape Crisis center.

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