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It turns out male sexuality is just as fluid as female sexuality

Why is it that women can retain their heterosexuality if they kiss, but if men do the same they’re labeled gay? David Shankbone/Wikimedia Commons, CC BY-NC

Why is it that women can retain their heterosexuality if they kiss, but if men do the same they’re labeled gay?
David Shankbone/Wikimedia Commons, CC BY-NC

By Jane Ward, University of California, Riverside

If women can kiss women and still be straight, what about men?

Some scholars have argued that female sexual desires tend to be fluid and receptive, while men’s desires – regardless of whether men are gay or straight – tend to be inflexible and unchanging. Support for this notion permeates popular culture. There are countless examples of straight-identified female actresses and pop stars kissing or caressing other women – from Madonna and Britney to Iggy and J-Lo – with little concern about being perceived as lesbians. When the Christian pop star Katy Perry sang in 2008 that she kissed a girl and liked it, nobody seriously doubted her heterosexuality.

The story is different for men. The sexuality of straight men has long been understood by evolutionary biologists, and, subsequently, the general public, as subject to a visceral, nearly unstoppable impulse to reproduce with female partners.… Read the rest

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The Solipsism of Evangelical Morality

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Joel Penner (CC BY 2.0)

Morgan Guyton writes at Patheos:

“Against you alone have I sinned.” These words from Psalm 51:4 are attributed to the Israelite king David speaking to God after he knocked up another man’s wife and had that man betrayed and murdered on the battlefield. Many evangelical pastors have praised this verse for how it names sin, but I consider it to be one of the most morally problematic verses in the Bible. It does do a very good job of encapsulating the solipsistic morality that I grew up with as an evangelical, in which sin had nothing to do with hurting other people and everything to do with whether or not I was displeasing God. Solipsism describes the delusion that I am the only person who actually exists in the universe. While I can’t blame anyone in particular for instilling me with this mindset, I grew up viewing morality as though the universe consisted of just God and me walking through a minefield of temptations, whether they were female bodies, drugs, or other objects.

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Animal Sex: How Octopuses Do It

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Joseph Castro Via Live Science:

Often considered the smartest invertebrates (animals without backbones) on the planet, octopuses can use tools, unscrew jar lids and tightly control their body color to match their surroundings. They use this sharp intelligence especially in situations of survival — including when they are trying to avoid getting eaten by their hungry mates.

Octopuses come in all shapes and sizes and inhabit diverse regions of the ocean. There are about 100 different species of octopuses in the genus Octopus, and at least another 150 species in other genera, said Jennifer Mather, a cephalopod expert at the University of Lethbridge in Canada. Scientists have witnessed the mating behavior of only about a dozen species, she added.

The marine animals have very short lives, generally lasting only a few years long and sometimes as short as 6 months. They spend their youth alone, eating and growing before reaching sexual maturity.

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How Having a Foursome Opened Up My Relationship

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Stuart Richards (CC BY-ND 2.0)

via AlterNet:

My boyfriend and I were happily monogamous. We had been together for nearly a year. And until the day it happened, the idea of having sex with other people was just a thought experiment, something we talked about for fun. It was never something we were actually going to do.

Such is the case for most American adults.  According to a recent study, 56 percent of women and 83 percent of men have a fantasy of having sex with someone other than a current spouse or partner.  It’s so widespread that the researchers deemed it a common fantasy. And for most people, it remains a fantasy — a naughty mental space in which the mind can wander, and stay for a while.  It usually doesn’t turn into reality — but it did for me.

My fantasy of a foursome began after college. Dorm life had been something of a wild midsummer night’s dream — one-night stands were common, almost expected amid the fraternity parties, and as I crept into my 20s, I craved something different, something outside the norm. Simple sex with one guy, even if it was someone new, began to lose its excitement after a while.  My mind wandered toward more elaborate scenarios, ones that included more than one partner.

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Sex Coaching – From Shame to Shamanism

sarah rose brightSarah Rose Bright is a sex coach far beyond the vanilla kind.

“Conventional sex therapy just deals with talking,” she explained in a recent interview with The Eternities podcast. “A lot of people carry a lot of fear, a lot of shame and tension, and all sorts of things that are difficult to address with talking only. For many people, a more practical approach can take them a lot further.”

Sarah talks in the interview of how her own life was transformed via an intensive course of sexual self-development that began with her attendance on a Tantra workshop for her thirtieth birthday. Instantly, she knew she had found her calling.

She now has more than ten years experience as a somatic sex coach and sex educator, with training in sexological bodywork, NLP, Tantra, shamanism, and Taoism, and the tutelage of sexual pioneers such as Dr Patti Britton, Barbara Carrellas and Joseph Kramer.… Read the rest

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Halloween’s Origin Story

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For this latest spooky October post, I wanted to cut to the chase. I’ve grown a little bit impatient with the month. So, here’s a nice little primer on the Celtic roots of the Halloween holiday and its evolution through the ages to the seemingly silly, scary celebration we know today.

Do the souls of the dead roam free during this time of the year? Are the ghosts friendly? What should I do as someone who lives on a former plantation just off the Trail of Tears in the South?

This video illuminates the evolution of the Roman Catholic Church in its relationship to the frustrating tradition of Samhain in the weird, old magickal world.

The story ultimately comes home to America where our current holiday finds youngsters and adults embracing both the macabre and the sexy. This piece even gets into the arson-crazed Detroit “Devil’s Night” bombings that I grew up with in the Motor City.… Read the rest

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This ‘Bubble Porn’ Video Is Probably Safe For Work (But Not Your Filthy Mind)

Ever heard the saying “less is more”? The “Bubble Porn” video is only as lurid as your preconceptions. It’s like that scene in The Empire Strikes Back where Luke is about to enter that spooky tree and asks what’s inside. Yoda replies, “Only what you take with you.”

Well, I suspect that most of us will be taking a good bit of redtube into this particular tree.

An aside – remember when you were a kid and actually had to hunt for pornography? Kids these days will never know the thrill of uncovering “wood porn“, unless it’s in a discarded thumb drive. (Hint: Leave it the hell alone.)

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Woman Files Suit Over Law Requiring Doctor’s RX To Purchase Sex Toys

Good for her. These laws exist in a lot more places that you might know, but don’t get challenged because people are ashamed to admit in public that they get up to the same kinds of things most Americans do in private. Chill out, morality police. Nothing is forbidden in the House of Love.

SANDY SPRINGS , Ga., May 16 (UPI) –A Georgia woman is suing the city of Sandy Springs over a law that requires a prescription or a legitimate reason to purchase sex toys.
Melissa Davenport filed the lawsuit hoping a judge finding the law unconstitutional.

The ordinance requires people to have a legitimate medical, scientific, educational, legislative, judicial or legal reason to purchase an “obscene” sexual device.

Davenport, who has been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, credits sex toys with saving her marriage.

via Melissa Davenport files suit over sex toy ordinance Sandy Springs – UPI.com.

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Queerfeminism

Pic: Amadhi (PD)

Pic: Amadhi (PD)

I am a male, I am also queer, and throughout my life I have maintained a steady albeit contentious allegiance with  the philosophy of feminism.  Now before we all pull out our fedoras and start a manly chant let me also say that my perspective on the ideology is shaped by my political beliefs as well as my understanding of gender theory, which I will admit, is not incredibly extensive, but I feel as though it is enough to throw in my two cents on the issue.

There is a horrible divide these days within the media wherein pundits enjoy the splendor of being able to toss around political buzzwords without being at all educated about the meaning behind them. A tragic example being the word “socialism”, as shown when a heavily opinionated fox news telecaster scorchingly slanders a progressive scapegoat by verbally assaulting him with the umbrella term “socialist”,  thereby heaping upon the individual all the tenets of every failed regime operating under a red flag from the 1920’s onward.… Read the rest

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